I love getting my first cappuccino in the morning at the place at the corner: the friendly smile of the lady preparing it for me gives more of a boost in the day than the caffeine itself!
Being positive, “positive thinking”, has to do with approaching difficult events by building upon the positive aspects of the situation. Someone who thinks positive believes the best is going to happen (and indeed she or he sees it happening).
Nothing can make us happier than making other people happy. None of us lives in a vacuum. Each of us interacts – even if virtually – with plenty of people every day and the result of each interaction is impacting our perception and positive thinking attitude, along with the ones of our counterparts.
Every interaction suddenly becomes an opportunity to BOOST your energy levels.
- Every good act sets in motion good consequences. Treat people with RESPECT and kindness – and you will be treated the same, feeling valued. People are more willing to help us when we are positive, and they tend to be unsupportive towards anyone broadcasting negativity. Giving support when asked without expecting anything in return is the best way to ensure to get help when in need.
- An easy way to get the positive wave in motion and to get positive energy back is to exercise GRATITUDE. A “thank you” and a smile are very good ways to kick off the flow of positive energy. A thank you card can be very, very powerful!! Tell people how they contributed to make your life better or helped you in achieving a target – maybe even just by bringing you a coffee which made you feel pampered. The worse that can happen is that they will behave the same again and you get even more pampered (or successful)!
- RECOGNIZE and focus on the QUALITIES and on what we like in a person and how they contribute to your success or wellbeing. This will make the other person feel valued and appreciated, fostering a strong relationship between the two of us.
Do not wait for a major achievement or a special event: often people we think need to hear it the least, actually, need recognition the most. Acknowledging people for who they are or what can do best – simply by telling them! – will increase the likelihood that they will indeed do something extraordinary.
Make sure to celebrate other people’s success and any behaviors driving excellence.
Sometimes it’s just enough to genuinely tell a friend we like her shoes or a memo she wrote, to see them genuinely happy. Their smile will automatically boost our level of energy. Try and see it!
- Choose to SHARE YOUR PASSIONS and the ideas you are pursuing with authentic passion. Your enthusiasm will be contagious and will help you getting supporters ready to listen and co-invent, helping you to get to your target.
- Last but not least, make sure to surround YOURSELF with positive people – when it counts: positive, supportive people are ready to give helpful advice and feedback. Especially at difficult times, relying on negative people may increase the stress level and make us insecure about our real abilities to manage the situation. So choose mentors carefully!
(…and for a boost of positive feeling in the middle of the desert:http://thenicestplaceontheinter.net/)
You may be interested to check out as well:
http://www.viacharacter.org/www/Relationship-Booster
The leader who had no title, Robin Sharma, simon&Schuster, London 2010
Future Engage Deliver: The essential guide to your leadership, Steve Radcliffe, Matador, 2008
