We are getting closer, Valentine’s Day is almost here! Learn new things that you can do in order to have an amazing relationship! Read yesterday’s post and the tip for today is to spend more time with your partner.
Tip #11: Create rituals to spend more time with your partner
Everyday we get busier with more stuff: new responsibilities at work, in the house, children, relatives, friends, internet, phones, life! It seems that we entered a vortex with a big TO DO list and we never have time to finish what we started or give more time to what it really matters.
So, creating time for your relationship takes discipline and commitment. And to be sure that you are investing enough time you need to create rituals and habits that are healthy for the two of you together.
I was attending a beautiful relationship course for couples a few weeks ago and one of the presenters said something like: “You think you spend time with each other, but you actually do not. You don’t spend QUALITY TIME with each other focusing you your relationship. You only focus on your daily activities and on solving the problems that come up!”
That made me thinking and I decided to pay attention to what conversations we have everyday in our relationship. I realized that we talk about everything but sometimes we forget to talk about us. And on a long term we are going to talk even less if our work and house activities get more complex. So, we need to create a habit in talking about us and in working on our relationship to keep it alive, passionate and active!
It’s your choice how much time you invest in spending quality time with your partner only, but remember you need to talk about you, about your relationship, your dreams, aspirations, needs, values, rules, challenges connected to your relationship to make it grow or, just spend intimate time that will help you relax and take your mind off the other stuff. Just look into your partner’s eyes, connect with him/her, send love energy from the heart, say beautiful words that connect you even more. Or have some romantic moments out of your normal environment, out of the house, out of the town you live in. Disconnect your phones and emails and just invest 100% of you in that moment. You will get the chance to solve problems that came up in your relationship or you can prevent any possible problems that might appear in the future.
As you are getting busier, invest at least 1 hour a week, one day a month, one week a year where you focus only on growing your relationship. If you can invest more time, that’s great! If not, create yourself a rule that you will have at least this time to spend with your partner only. Make rituals to do every day, every week, every month, every year. These rituals will make the standard in your life.
Love is above all and it’s worth working on your relationship, especially if you are going to spend all your life with that person.
So, decide now how much time you want to invest and create now a ritual that will go on all the time.
Inspiration for these tips: Tony Robbins and two of my favorite clients that showed me that love is above everything.
Photos: Lidia Dogaru
