We are getting closer, Valentine’s Day is almost here! Any ideas of how you could surprise your loved one already? One of the most important things is to be yourself, in your true nature!
Tip #4: Own and use your sexual essence to attract your partner
Men, how many times did you find attractive a very feminine woman? Hmmm…Always?
Women, how many times did you find attractive a strong, masculine man? Hmmm…Always?
Sexual attraction, intimate connection and therefore passion in a relationship come from polarity. A feminine energy will attract masculine energy and the other way around. If two people have similar polarity, the attraction will be diminished.
So, if in your core, you have feminine energy, use it and live it fully when you are around your partner and let him/her to express fully their masculine energy, don’t take aways the things that make them express their sexual essence.
What’s feminine and what’s masculine energy?
Feminine energy wants to experience love, wants to be understood, wants to remember everything, wants to be owned, is stimulated by praise, makes small things big etc.
Masculine energy wants to experience freedom, want to be appreciated, lets go and forgets, wants freedom, is stimulated by challenge, makes big things small etc.
I must tell you that my feminine energy inside is really attracted by a person that is free, that is stimulated by challenge, that wants to let go sometimes and not preoccupy so much for the small things, with a strong physical presence, with a strong sense of direction in life, that comes alive every time I challenge.
I was discussing with one of my clients and he was really angry and frustrated that since his wife had a child she is over-controlling everything! He started to feel useless, abandoned and started to close down because he did not know what to do. And, every time he closed down, his wife got angry too.
Why? It’s like a vicious circle. He has in his core masculine energy and she has feminine. Because of the change in their life (the child) she started controlling a lot and without noticing she started criticizing and controlling her husband too. He lost his freedom and he did not receive any appreciation or admiration from his family anymore. Because of this he started closing down. Feminine energy needs attention, needs to feel safe and understood and to be reassured. While he was closing down she did not receive any of the things she needed. So, they were actually angry at each other, closing down even more and they started having problems: she was focusing more than needed on the child and he found all excuses to stay more time at work and get home late.
The solution? It’s really easy, but it requires energy! Feminine and masculine energy! As I was working with him and not with her, I asked him to be present and start again taking initiative in the family. And he decided to have a discussion with her and ask her to let him help. She then felt heard and left him help her. By the way: it took only one session for this small change to happen. And the small change created a big result.
So, what is your core energy? Is it feminine or masculine? What about your partner?
How do you express your core energy? Do you live it fully and let your partner live his/her essence?
Inspiration for these tips: Tony Robbins and two of my favorite clients that showed me that love is above everything.
Photos: Lidia Dogaru
